The Haters Hall of Infamy
"People actually
don't have anything better to do but spread
hate? We should be spreading love. Don't
worry about the haters. No matter what
they say, they're being enlightened." -- Love, Felicia
"Haters hate. Ignorance is plentiful in
the universe. By the
way, all critical work is usually subject to ridicule by simple minds."
-- Your Brother, Ron Carter
I decided to create the “Haters Hall
of Infamy” for several reasons.
First,
because people think that they can send me hatred in private and
pretend to be
smart and clever in public. There is no
expectation of privacy with email to people you don’t know. What
will they do when they realize their
hate could be shared with the world? I’m
sure that’ll make them think twice about sending me their
evilness.
Second, I want all the people who hate to
know that I don’t have a problem meeting them on their level. Who
ever came up with the crap about taking a
high road when people are hitting you low?
Third, there is nothing productive about emailing me to tell me what
an
ass you think I am. Shall we discuss
what an ass you think I am, or shall we discuss real issues? I
choose real issues. There is nothing good
that can come from hate. How do you
imagine that we will have a lively discussion when you come at me with
hate?
Hate on, Haters!
Here is an example of how ignorant
some people can be. I’m putting this
first freak on blast so that people can see what NOT to send to people
you
don’t even know. She is responding to my
column called “HIV & The Down Low.”
My question is: Since she thinks
that Black men are so horrible, why bother emailing me?
Ummm...hello...I AM a Black Man!
Marcia at mjhylton@yahoo.com wrote:
Mr.
James,
It is my
opinion that you do not know what you are talking about. The stats are
true.
Many black men are in prison, or gay, or are running around being
irresponsible
adults: having babies with various women, abusing drugs, wasting their
finances, etc, etc, etc.
To ignore
this truth is to live in denial. Yes, there are those folks who choose
to get
married, but being married is not necessarily a sign that there is a
good,
black man involved in the relationship. Many married, black men that I
have met
have affairs or do not fully contribute to their households. Many black
women
that I have met share with me stories of cheating boyfriends and
husbands.
There is a huge problem in our homes and communities and it's usually
the male
role model who is missing. Black women are often carrying the load by
themselves; even when they have men in their lives. This is so because
the
black men often refuse to grow up and act responsibly.
It is
apparent that your definition of a "good black man" and mine are
significantly different. This might be the real problem; being that you
do not
know what women are looking for.
I
appreciate your thoughts and am aware that as a man, you do not have a
full
grasp of the female perspective. But, it is my opinion that, only a
woman
involved with a man can truly judge if that man is indeed a good black
man...
and vice-versa. And my experience, direct and indirect, has shown me
that there
are few good, black men and many good, goal-oriented, hardworking,
financially-responsible, devoted, ready-to-build-families, black women.
I am a
prime example... and I have many others.
M. Hylton
My response:
Marcia;
I
can feel the anger, pain and
hatred in your words. Believe what you
want about Black men. I can not help
you. No one can. Hold on to the belief that we are whatever
you want to believe and for you, it will be true. There is
nothing else to say.
Thank
you
for taking the time to
write. Have a nice life.
Darryl
James
Now, here’s another hater who was driven insane by the piece I
wrote on the Million Man March, called “The Million Man Farce?” I
thought this was from a sullen little girl, but it’s actually from a
bitchy little man. Again, it’s one thing to disagree, but why do it
with such venom and ignorance?
Cy Chenier cy_chenier@yahoo.com
wrote:
I was
proud to be part of such a profound experience which was nothing short
of an historic catalyst in our community and, I dare say, country. The
least of which, WE were inspired, the most significant of which, WE
became socially, economically, politically, and spiritually active.
"WE" being those of us who participated in M3... and those of you who
didn't... Funny thing about progress... you need only a few progressive
individuals (let's say a million) to affect "positive" change.... Still
got our issues - no doubt... and there is no shortage of OUR domesticated pessimists
whose raison detra is to remind us of our shortcomings (Willie Lynch would be proud).... but it just
fascinates me that the same individuals who saw no purpose served by THIS event probably exist as nothing more
than free radicals who would not be part of the solution anyway...capable instead of only minor
deeds that are simply self serving and destined to fade into obscurity - as is the way with social
scavengers.
The enthusiastic fervor with which
they decry their support for the Conservative Right is NEVER seen when you need there involvement (not rhetoric -
could you imagine Armstrong Williams as a tutor?) to mentor a young African American male - that is
where it starts... right?.
Also, if the good gentleman did not
hear any of his issues addressed then - maybe...just maybe he was at the Million Republican March... oops...my
bad...there's no such thing..... yet.
As many of you know, We made several
pledges that day...and in the coming day's, I plan to exercise (2)two as it relates to this topic: 1) I
will be politically active in my community - I cast my ballot -
regardless of my DC residency. 2) I will be economically active in my
community - I will continue spend my dollar in African-American owned
businesses where possible - and if I don't spend it on literature
written by the likes of a Darryl James (I hope he doesn't
use the Moesley name anymore...it's disconcerting) then I'll have more to invest in a place like
Cake Love on U St...better that Star-big-bucks and I'm sure the
owner didn't require an "Agenda" 10 years ago...
Sides if that was an expert from his
writing - then I find it immature at best...
Everyday is a good day people - be a
part of someone else's good day...
Cy
Just so you know who your dealing
with, this is the authors link (and his lil' glamor shot - definitely
L.A.) .... http://www.theblackgendergap.com/the_author.htm
Okay, that was proof that men can be bitches, too. Why do
I have to be a Republican just because I think for myself? That’s
not really a good representation for the Democrats. Here’s
another one who freaked out in labeling me. Why does this idiot
think I am “Eurocentric” because he disagrees with me?
Andre Kelton andre.k@comcast.net
wrote:
I
don't know which march you were at, but all those things you mentioned
were encouraged by the various speakers. Like most Eurocentric Negroes,
if it is not written down and numbered, you have a hard time seeing the
agenda. Grow up!
The following kook knows I want him to stop emailing me, but he
refuses to stop. The funny thing is that he is responding to the
“Strange Ideas” piece, where I admonish people for speaking when they
are not qualified. His disjointed verbiage is designed to malign
my writing skills. It’s easy to tell that he’s not qualified to
do that when you read his hate:
From: LawtonBarry@aol.com
Hey
Darryl,
Its me again. I know you
ask me to stop e-mailing or (dialoging) with you, but...
First and foremost, you need to focus
your writing. In your last ramble, a short piece, you covered;
begging, non-profit, corporate abuse, revisionist history, affirmative
action, George Bush and relationships. You should focus, be less
ambiguous and follow your own advice.
You need anger management and to
learn how to write. Calling yourself a sydicated columnist is a
travesty of the greatest extent.
Now, this bitch of a man maligned my writing skills, yet he
emailed me again to provide suggestions for what I should write
about. If you think I’m a poor writer, why bother giving me
suggestions? Here, he is responding to “Angry Black Woman.”
From: LawtonBarry@aol.com
Darryl,
A little harsh and victimized.
While I agree too much overzealous criticism is heaped on black people,
the fact still remains, that a disproportionate number of black women
are raising children and supporting them without the help of the
fathers. These are no small numbers, and can account for the anger
these women harbor. As a responsible father, I share their anger. Yet,
as Adilia Stevenson once said," I believe in the forgiveness of sins
and the redemption of ingnorance."
What I would like to see you examine
in the growing whiteness of our media. In most markets, especially
Boston, if you have minority anchors, you will only find them on
weekends. This has to be more than a coincidence. In addition, all the
political talk shows have all white ment and a few white women. These
are the people that subliminally change attitudes. Without progress in
this area , we will always be define as a special interest group;
pigeoned holed and relegated to black or minority forums. We have
seen over this election cycle the continuing ignoring of black
political thought. We see it every night in living color or uncolor.
Next, this hater proves that hate clouds thinking. She
is responding to things that were simply not present in my
column. She is irritated at receiving my column, even though I
didn’t send it to her personally. Finally, she wanted me to know
that she has a high IQ and went to a top law school, yet, her “top law”
education failed to reveal that her communication has no expectation of
privacy. I am now sharing it with the world:
chwalker at chwalker@pacbell.net
wrote:
As an
independent, divorced, 30 something, black women - I was offended by
the commentary. I don't have resentment or anger towards black men. I'm
not bitter about... what ever you think black women are bitter about.
I'm not hopeless or fearful. I don't believe I need a man to complete
me or make me happy. I am a little irritated by this e-mail sent to me
- but notice I didn't send YOU e-mails discussing my views on your
mental stability without even knowing you based on faulty assumptions
of your general characteristics.
Be careful when painting with a broad
brush. It might be more productive to heal our community if we begin
with a less judgmental tone. Instead of stereotyping we could try to
see what role we play in poor communications with others. Poor
communication is rarely all one persons fault. If black women are angry
at you - take a look at what did to piss them off. The problem may not
be as deep as you think.
A seasoned journalist ought to know
better than to work with stereotypes and run it as news. I refuse to
accept your nonsense that my anger is the cause of the destruction of
the black community. We face enough discrimination from other groups.
Now we have to deal with your venomous BS too.
As a journalist you have a
responsibility not to push ignorance out there that harm black women
for no obvious reason. If a black woman hurt you - go to a
psychologist. To suggest that the only way a black woman can be happy
is to have a black man marry her is about as ignorant a statement as
I've ever heard.
This kind of backwards - women are to
serve and not think kind of thinking is the problem. By the way - I
have a law degree from a top law school and a 135 IQ.
And finally:
Lola Talabi (
swtpea_21@hotmail.com),
a rotten brained
female claiming to be African and therefore, detached from
the African American experience, emailed me to tell me
that I had an obligation to take denigration from women
(see “
How
Not to Date A Black Man”) and that my refusal
was the primary problem with Black people in America.
This self-hating ignoramus claimed that the
behavior of “you people” was the reason why she and other
Africans separate themselves from Blacks in America.
Here’s some of the vile crap she spewed:
“The
worldview of the average Black American don't go
past his ghetto,” said the Black racist in standard
uneducated English. “Please, this ain't my home and I just
sit and watch your African American drama--that's all it
is to me and most Africans--drama. No identity, no
history, no ambition, just anger. Stupid, trapped,
misguided, going nowhere anger. “F--- you AND your African American
women. You ain't no
threat or concern to anyone anyway.”
I returned this bitter crow’s evil and asked her not to
contact me anymore. She posted my response on some
obscure site for Nigerians in America, so in return, I
included her comments in “
The
Hate That Hate Made.” Of
course, since she is ignorant, she believes that my
actions are libelous. If she so desires, I will meet the
hater in court. Please understand that there is No expectation pf
privacy when you send unsolicited email--especially if it
is full of hatred.
If you do not wish to see yourself in the Hater’s Hall of
Infamy, just don’t send me your ignorance. If you disagree, fine,
but don’t do it with evil and expect a good result from me.
Here's a hateful
freak of nature, who claims to be a Black
activist, but lost her cool and her mind when I refused to change my
position
on Jesse Jackson and Al Sharpton (Dying Activists):
On
3/7/05 10:40
AM, Beverly Graham Dba Graham at llleon@sbcglobal.net
wrote:
Darryl:
I look forward
to the Black N LA newsletters to read your articles. My name is
Beverly J. Graham and I, too am a
black activist.
I take
exception to you comments concerning Mr. Sharpton and Mr.
Jackson. Truth be told although both men have
shortcomings. As, we all do! We are able
to do the things we do because of their tireless work. Also, both
men spoke up for blacks when many
blacks were simply happy to except jobs, goods, services, and caucasian
spouses
in exchange for silence.
Darryl,
I'd ask
you to revisit you feelings for Mr. Jackson and Mr.
Sharpton. It appears in this article that you have
done to them what you criticized others for doing; villifying black
leaders.
Thanks
Beverly
I gave her a simple and
succinct response:
Hi
Beverly;
I appreciate
your comments and it is always good to run across another Black
activist.
However, if you are a true activist, you should know better than to
ask me to revise my positions, which are well thought and carefully
considered. You don't have to agree, but there really is no point in
asking
me to soften my position on the people you value.
If you think I
have done to them what I accuse others of, you should re-read the
article. I don't consider them leaders.
peace &
respect,
Darryl
James
<>Now, obviously, Beverly
has been providing Al and Jesse with fellatio services, because she
took it
personally and freaked out on me:
Hello Darryl:
If you feel you
do not want to change or re-visit your thoughts concerning Jesse
Jackson and Al
Sharpton so be it! However, Darryl you
are guilty of doing to Jesse and Al Sharpton exactly what you are
accusing
other blacks of doing. Publicly berating
each others.
Here's
my
point, I disagree with your
article. Therefore, on my next
opportunity to do public television or write an article for a major
magazine I
say I often read articles written by a black brother that refers to
himself as
a black activist but he's really just a hater.
He's sort of a black intellectual Hitler. His name is Darryl
....... He's out of touch with Black America. It's blacks
like Darryl that keep the war(s)
of the world going!
A
novel
idea. Darryl don't ever change. In fact,
you seem to be a man with many words. Maybe you can find some harsh
words for
me. However, know this in the end
we/I/you/them have only hurt each.
I
respect your
work. Looking forward to next article.
Beverly
Why would she threaten to publicize her disagreement with
me, while calling me names? But she respects my work? Did she
forget to take her medication? Of course I let her have it.
Beverly;
You are not a
Black activist, you are a messy, ignorant fool.
You are angry because I didn't agree with you. We don't even know
each other. You say a bunch of angry evil mess and think
I'll dialogue with you? Why did you even
bother to email me? I don't have ANY
words for you and will now ignore any crap you spew this way.
The
hate is in
your dark, evil heart.